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Fathers and sons struggle to connect

By Korea Herald

Published : July 25, 2013 - 19:52

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& Sons
By David Gilbert 
(Random House)

The ghost of J.D. Salinger hovers over David Gilbert’s new novel, “& Sons.” Set amid the wealth and privilege of Manhattan’s toniest neighborhood, the novel centers on A.N. Dyer, a reclusive author best known for his coming-of-age story set in a boys’ prep school.

When the novel begins, Dyer is preparing to deliver a eulogy for his lifelong friend Charles Henry Topping at a church in the heart of the blue-blood district that Gilbert knows and writes about so well.

The Dyers and the Toppings have been friends for years, sending their children to the same schools and summering together in the Hamptons. St. James’ Church, the Buckley School, Exeter, Yale ― Gilbert nails the taxonomy of class and wealth like a younger Tom Wolfe.

But “& Sons” isn’t primarily social satire, even though parts are hilarious. It’s about the emotional bonds between fathers, sons and brothers ― the overwhelming love that can’t be adequately expressed and the burden of unspoken expectations.

“It’s impossibly hard, a father’s decline,” Dyer tells Topping’s son, Philip. “You both want to say so much but you’re both so afraid of saying the same thing, something like, I hope I wasn’t a terrible disappointment.”

Philip Topping is the compromised observer of the Dyer family drama. A wannabe novelist who has settled for teaching fifth grade, he’s been disloyal to his own WASPy clan by secretly yearning to be Dyer’s son.

Dyer’s own three sons, meanwhile, struggle to forge their identities in the long shadow cast by their father’s outsize success. The older two, in their 40s, understand the limitations of his overweening narcissism but can’t quite break free and succeed on their own terms. The youngest, just 17, is still largely an innocent, his youth offering his decrepit dad the opportunity for a parental do-over. 

(AP)